Why Do We Miss a Person?

They say people come into our lives for a reason. In our entire lifetime we get to meet hundreds of people with varying personalities. Though only a fraction really remains in our lives for good, each and every single person we've encountered has in some way affected our way of viewing the things around us most of the time, unintentionally. It just happens.

While I was going through my tweeter feed, one tweet caught my attention. it says, "Why do we miss a person?"

Humans are emotional in nature. We naturally crave for affection and communication thus, human interaction is an integral part of our life. We cannot exist without forming what we call "relationships" with other people. Experiences are what makes up memories or the the moments in our lives- may be long or just fleeting- that has in someway created an impact in the way we view things. These are the moments that we go through in our daily undertaking. And for every experience, there are other people involved that helps weave the whole thing into a memory.

Life is a battle. We are constantly faced with everything ugly. And the beautiful, though it exists in our everyday existence, is not as visible as the negativity that we see and feel all the time. When people who are a part of our lives share with us beautiful memories, we tend to either do something to prolong that beautiful memory, hold on to it tightly or relive the feeling and experience like it's as if it's still happening. We do it because it makes us happy, it makes us feel good and most importantly it makes us feel that amidst all the ugliness in the world there is always something beautiful somewhere. As rare as it may be, we do realize that it does exist. Also, I think that it is an experience that once upon a time we thought was impossible and to see it unfolding before our eyes and experiencing it in our life is a GIFT.

When you miss a person it means that you have formed a bond that's beyond what you feel towards most of the people you know. He/she stands out from the rest because he/she has penetrated your innerself in a way that most people are not able to penetrate. That person becomes your comfort zone. Being around that person makes you feel complete, comforted and safe. You tend to forget about other things and just focus on the moment. You become blind from everything including the ugly which once was the most visible and most importantly it strangely made you feel numb and blind to all the negativity. So, when that person disappears you feel empty. Thus, you reminisce. Maybe because you believe that something as beautiful as how it's been is just temporary and what happened in the past may or will never happen again. It has reached it's expiration and all it is going to be is a beautiful memory. Though the person may come back but what "has been" will never be the same again. You may repeat that moment but the feeling will never be the same as the first time it's been. Probably it's because the first was unexpected, spontaneous and just plain honest. Whereas the second time is planned and is just an effort to relive what "has been".

Maybe you also miss a person because you had so much good and bad memories together and you know that even if you want to stay together fate tells otherwise. No matter how long life is, no matter how much memories you share and no matter how much you want it to last everything has its limits and what's saddening is we can't tell when.

Maybe it's because of too much moments and experiences you've shared together that when you part ways the whole world just suddenly reminds you of that other person, how long you've journeyed and explored together. We have to remember that we learn and become better by exploring the world around us. And to allow someone else to join your journey means that you've allowed to share you're vulnerable self, your still incomplete self with someone else and let them hop in and join your journey together. That person automatically becomes a part of your innerself. He/she becomes a part of your transition. As much as the events that you go through are essential to hone you into a stronger person, that person you've included in your story is as important. In life we are presented with so much possibilities and choices. Each one of us are entitled to choose which choices we'd take and which to just sacrifice. We can't keep everyone who's been a part of our lives no matter how much we want to. As we go through life, we have to make certain choices to better ourselves but at the same time we have to sacrifice things or even PEOPLE to become a better person. so the people who you decide to journey along with, when we make choices we part ways with some of them who choose to tread a different route. Letting go is painful but it is also paves way to letting in someone new.

The feeling of missing someone is so strong that no matter how many bad memories you've shared it's the good that you will always try to remember the most. Why? because you loved the person. In love, there is no such thing ugly. You embrace everything you see in the person. You accept the good and the bad. The whole experience with that person is something you once wished would stay for good. You expected to much however it fell short. But you still cherish it because it wasn't just all ugly but it made you learn some of the most important lessons in life. It opened you up to things you never knew possible before. It introduced you to learnings you can never learn from anything else except with that person alone and the experience of being with him/her.

Lastly, I feel that missing a person is one of the feelings that makes us human. We miss because we long for someone that once made us feel whole. The memories we've shared with those people was the closest thing we can get to what's perfect which is simply impossible. That perfection that's intangible and undefinable yet something we know we all want so bad. It doesn't exist because if there was perfection, there won't be war and we'd all be CEOs. And if perfection existed life will be boring. There won't be any pain, happiness, excitement and missing anything or anyone. Experience will be limited and so are memories will be. Once perfection is attained, life will become useless. The flawed world and life we know is already enough to keep us going and experience different things keeping us busy searching for that "perfection" that we know we'll never find yet we won't stop looking for because through our search for that "perfection" we experience a different high, that feeling of happiness, regret, love, longing, success, failures that we share with the people we journey with and make memories with.

#NowListening to "I Throw My Hands Up" by Pixie Lott