I DON’T KNOW IF I AM THE PROBLEM OR THE WORLD IS. WHENEVER I MEET NEW PEOPLE ONE OF THE VERY FIRST THINGS I AM ASKED ABOUT IS, “DO YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND?” OR “HAVE YOU EVER HAD A BOYFRIEND?” AND I’D SAY “NO” OR “NEVER HAD ANY BEFORE.” AND THEY’D ALL BE SHOCKED AND END UP ASKING “WHY!?” THEN I’D START PONDERING ABOUT THE “WHY”. BEING EDUCATED FROM ELEMENTARY TO COLLEGE IN AN EXCLUSIVE SCHOOL FOR GIRLS, AT FIRST I THOUGHT THAT WAS THE PROBLEM WHY I NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND. MY STRICT MOTHER IS ALSO A FACTOR. HOWEVER, COME TO THINK OF IT, I HAVE FRIENDS WHO HAD A BOYFRIEND OR ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP EVEN IF THEY ALSO ATTEND AN ALL-GIRL SCHOOL JUST LIKE ME. I CAN ALSO GET A BOYFRIEND WHILE STILL IN SCHOOL BACK THEN EVEN IF IT WAS AGAINST MY MOM. A LOT OF PEOPLE IN MY SCHOOL DID THAT. THEN, I REALIZED LATER ON THAT IT WAS A CHOICE.
I ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE WHO WONDER WHY I DON’T HAVE A BOYFRIEND OR NEVER HAD ANY IS THAT BECAUSE I AM HAPPY BEING SINGLE AND GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP ISN’T SOMETHING THAT I AM REALLY INTERESTED ABOUT. THERE’S SO MUCH MORE FUN THINGS TO DO IN THE WORLD THAN BEING “EXCLUSIVELY OWNED” BY SOMEONE. I AM ONLY 22 AND THERE ARE MANY THINGS TO DO IN LIFE YET. I WANT TO TRAVEL THE WORLD, MEET DIFFERENT TYPES OF PEOPLE, DO EXTREME SPORTS, EMBARK ON SOME CRAZY ADVENTURE WITH RANDOM PEOPLE, CLIMB THE CORPORATE LADDER, EARN MY OWN MONEY AND SPEND IT ON THINGS THAT WOULD MAKE ME HAPPY OR I LIKE. I WANT TO SEE HOW FAR LIFE CAN TAKE ME. I WANT TO FEEL FULFILLED AND SIMPLY BE HAPPY.
THOUGH I MAY HAVE NEVER BEEN ON THE LOVE LANE BEFORE BUT LOOKING AT MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE BEEN OR ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW, I KNOW IT’S TOUGH WORK. I REMEMBER ONE OF MY CO-WORKERS SAID “LOVE IS A CAREER”. IF YOU WANT IT TO WORK, YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR 100% ON IT. IT IS NEVER DEFINED BY FATE. YOU ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WORKED FOR. IF THINGS ARE NOT GOING TOO WELL IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP EITHER YOU BOTH END IT OR DO SOMETHING TO MAKE IT WORK. YOU CAN’T SAY “I’LL JUST LEAVE IT TO FATE. IF WE’RE MEANT TO BE THEN THINGS WILL WORK OUT IF NOT THEN FINE.” IF YOU SETTLE WITH THAT KIND OF NOTION, YOU MIGHT JUST END UP WONDERING LATER WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN. AND YOU DON’T WANT THAT FOR SURE BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO, YOU WILL NEVER SEE WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN.
I AM NOT TOTALLY AGAINST BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. IF IT’S GOING TO COME THEN I’LL ACCEPT IT. IF NOT, THEN SO BE IT. THE SINGLE WOMEN WHO ARE AT THEIR 30S IN THE COMPANY I AM CURRENTLY WORKING AT WOULD ALWAYS TELL ME NOT TO BE PICKY OR GIVE GUYS A CHANCE OR I AM GOING TO END UP LIKE THEM. SINGLE AND JUST RIGHT THERE WAITING AND WAITING SO BAD FOR MR. RIGHT TO COME ASAP SINCE TIME IS RUNNING OUT. I ADMIT THAT I AM PICKY BUT IF I AM GOING TO ENTER A RELATIONSHIP MY PARTNER WOULD BE SOMEONE WHO I KNOW I CAN STAND TO BE AROUND WITH FOR A LONG TIME. I CAN’T SETTLE FOR A MAN WHO’S GOOD-LOOKING BUT DUMB, JOBLESS, PLAYER OR TOO FULL OF HIMSELF. I WANT A MAN.
HONESTLY, I AM NOT WORRIED TO GET OLD SINGLE. PEOPLE SAY IT’S NOT GOOD TO GROW OLD ALONE. YOU HAVE TO HAVE SOMEONE WHO YOU CAN GROW OLD WITH. I AM NOT AFRAID. WELL, MAYBE LATER ON THE FEAR OF HAVING TO DO THINGS ON MY OWN WITH MY FRAIL BODY AT MY OLD AGE WILL COME BUT I HAVE TO BE READY EARLY ON TO PREVENT THAT FROM HAPPENING. PERHAPS I SHOULD START SAVING UP AS MUCH MONEY AS I CAN SO I CAN AFFORD TO HIRE PEOPLE TO DO THINGS FOR ME WHEN I’M OLD. TALKING ABOUT FORESIGHT. LOL TO THAT. WELL THE POINT IS, IT DOESN’T BOTHER ME AT ALL AT THIS POINT THAT I AM STILL SINGLE AND LITERALLY CLUELESS ABOUT LOVE. AS LONG AS I CAN GET THE MOST OUT OF LIFE AND FEEL TRULY HAPPY AND SATISFIED IN SUCH A WAY THAT I KNOW I HAVE LIVED A FRUITFUL SINGLE LIFE AND I AM READY TO EMBARK ON ANOTHER CHAPTER OF MY LIFE, THEN THAT’S THE TIME I WILL TALK ABOUT LOVE LIFE. FOR NOW I DON’T WANT TO TRAP MYSELF IN THE WORLD OF SILLY COUPLE FIGHTS. I DON’T WANT TO BOTHER MYSELF WITH SMALL MUSHY LOVE PROBLEMS. THERE’S A WONDERFUL WORLD OUT THERE WAITING TO BE DISCOVERED BEING OVERSHADOWED BY SOME MINOR AND NONSENSICAL LOVE ISSUES. I DON’T WANT TO MISS OUT THE BEAUTY THAT LIES OUT THERE. I AM ONLY YOUNG ONCE SO BETTER MAKE THE MOST OUT OF IT. LOVE CAN WAIT BUT THE WORLD AROUND YOU WILL NEVER DO.
I CAN SAY THAT I AM SO HAPPY AND BLESSED LIVING A SINGLE WOMAN AT THIS CENTURY. THIS IS SOMETHING THAT I PRIDE MYSELF ABOUT EVEN THOUGH SOME PEOPLE SAY THAT I’M BEING OLD SCHOOL. I DON’T WANT TO BE LIKE THE OTHER GIRLS OUT THERE SULKING AND THINKING THAT NOBODY LOVES THEM OR WILL EVER LOVE THEM AND LETTING THEIR INSECURITIES SWALLOW THEM THINKING THAT THEY DON’T LOOK PRETTY ENOUGH THAT’S WHY GUYS DON’T LOOK AT THEM. NEVER HAVE I HAD TO THROW MYSELF AND MY DIGNITY TO SOME GUY NO MATTER HOW HOT OR HANDSOME HE IS JUST SO HE’D TAKE NOTICE OF ME AND WANT ME. I WILL NEVER GO DOWN TO THAT LEVEL. I FEEL REALLY SORRY FOR THOSE GIRLS WHO DEPEND ON THEIR MAN AND THINK THAT THEIR WHOLE WORLD REVOLVES ON THEIR MAN. IT’S SAD THAT THESE GIRLS WOULD LITERALLY THROW AWAY THEIR BEAUTIFUL LIFE FOR A GUY THEN WHEN EVERYTHING FALLS APART THEIR WHOLE LIFE CRUMBLES TOO. I DON’T WANT TO BE THAT WOMAN.
SOME WOMEN FEEL ASHAMED TO ADMIT THAT THEY ARE SINGLE OR HAVE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND SINCE BIRTH (MY CASE!) SO THEY FAKE IT AND SAY THEY’VE HAD A BOYFRIEND BEFORE. I THINK THAT’S CRAZY. I DON’T SEE ANY REASON WHY A GIRL HAS TO FAKE HER REAL STATUS. YOU’RE SINGLE BECAUSE NO ONE’S GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU. IT’S A SIGN FOR ALL THE MEN OUT THERE.
TO MAKE IT SHORT AND SIMPLE, I AM SINGLE, PROUD OF IT AND VERY HAPPY. NO RUSH, JUST RIGHT THERE PATIENT AND WILL BE READY ONCE THE RIGHT ONE COMES.
#NOWLISTENING TO “ANNA SUN” BY WALK THE MOON
